“You are a fool, the way you are doing things is not correct, follow my plan! Hey, why are you irritated, I am saying nothing but the truth!”
These words seem very common, don’t they? Of course, if i know that something is wrong, i have every right to say so, but only in the right way. Truth has value only when conveyed in a manner that the listener is ready to accept. Even if I am saying it with good intentions, they will be understood only when my choice of words and phrases reflects so. Kahin bhi kabhi bhi pahunch jana aur kehna ki ye sahi nahi hai, badalna padega is neither correct nor fruitful. It only ruins one’s image. If you want someone to change his behavior or style of working to suit your own, it has to be done gradually and on his terms, not yours, unless the person is facing some difficulty due to his behavior and wants to change himself. If I tell a person straight away what all is wrong with him, he is sure to ignore you or even get irritated.
There is another important factor about acceptance of one’s statements. And that is credibility. My comments will be taken seriously only if the person I am talking to finds me credible enough.
In physics, there is a law on inertia, “a body tends to remain in its state of rest or uniform motion, unless an external force is applied to it”. A similar law applies to humans. A person will change if and only if a sincere effort is applied, provided that this effort is made in a gradually and in an acceptable manner.
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